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My favorite blog, Boing Boing, featured the collection of Hayden Peters, who runs a site called Art of Mourning.

In an interview with Collectors Weekly, Historian and Collector Hayden Peters charts the evolution of mourning jewelry from the 16th century through its most prolific period during the reign of Queen Victoria.

Here’s an excerpt from their interview:

Collectors Weekly:  So, just to be clear, is mourning jewelry considered a type of funeralia?

This Victorian hairwork bracelet featured a weave that stretched to fit the wearer. The clasp is neo-Rococo.
This Victorian hairwork bracelet featured a weave that stretched to fit the wearer. The clasp is neo-Rococo.
 

Peters:  Yes. Some pieces are obviously made with the funeral in mind. In the 16th century, it wasn’t unheard of to leave an allocation in your will for the construction of mourning jewelry to be given to the loved ones at the funeral. To me that’s funeralia. That’s an accessory of mourning and part of the pomp and showiness of the funeral itself.

There were other things, though, that may be considered mourning but not funeralia. For example, I don’t consider the neoclassical stuff to be real funeralia, but it all falls under that umbrella. Funeralia, itself, is another world. You have the actual cemetery, the burial, and God knows what. It has so many facets. I think the jewelry fits in there in some way.

Read the full interview here.

Check out Peters’ site, the Art of Mourning, here.

Batesville makes caskets, right? They’ve been making them for a while. They make a lot of them. They have lots of customers and they have an impressive distribution system in place.

According to Ryan Thogmartin from Connecting Directors, Batesville has just bought the intellectual rights to Goria Corporation, a company that, until the sale, made molded vaults from what I suspect is some type of plastic or polycarbonate or other rigid but lightweight material.  Here’s the letter from the Goria website that describes the sale:

To our valued customers and supporters:

For the past five years, Goria Corporation has been pleased to produce and sell our patented Eonian™ and Endurance™ burial vaults to funeral service providers across the country. During this time, we’ve gotten to know many funeral directors who appreciate our revolutionary products and share our commitment to delivering value to families.

My purpose in writing today is to advise you of a change in our business. Effective November 16, 2009. Goria sold the molds and intellectual property rights on which our vaults are produced. Goria has closed its burial vault business and have ceased all manufacturing operations and will no longer be a supplier of burial vaults. For a number of reasons, we felt the time was appropriate and are confident we made the right decision in choosing the reputable organization we sold too.

On behalf of my family and our staff, we appreciate your business and are thankful for the support you have given us.If you have questions about our selling the molds, patent rights or closing our burial vault business, please feel free to contact Pierre Goria at info@goriacorp.com or call 336-697-0189 ext. 301.

I met Pierre a few years ago at an expo and he was excited about using rotational molding of plastic to transform the way vaults are made and sold.  Because of the lower weight, he was able to create his vaults in one factory and ship them across the country for a reasonable cost, making competition with concrete vault companies possible and profitable.

So let’s get back to the part where Batesville spends some cash to buy his molds and intellectual property.  See, his company makes a lot more than vaults.  So he didn’t sell them everything, just the vault part of the business.

Does it mean he no longer wanted to make vaults?  Does it mean that no one else will make these kinds of vaults?  Not necessarily, on either count.

Now, I haven’t spoken to Pierre, but I know how excited he was about his product and how convinced he was that funeral homes would see the benefits of his kind of vault.  And I know that if Batesville is serious about shifting the industry toward a mass-produced, centrally-manufactured vault, selling his intellectual property was a great way to get the product into the marketplace in a big, big way.

From a businessperson’s view, he made a great move.  Batesville has the resources to push the product in a much-greater way that he ever could have.  They have the means to compensate him for his hard work to create the product and begin marketing it.  Even better, he still owns his original company.

Ryan Thogmartin brings us a great perspective from the vault world when he states:

Maybe the story interests me more because I am also in the burial vault business, but regardless, if Batesville decides to take on burial vaults they could make a big impact on the burial vault world. Just think of the ramifications, if Batesville switched all their customers over to using their burial vault?

What do you think the impact could be?

Well, Ryan, I think it’s going to have a big impact.  I doubt that Batesville would have spent cash to acquire this knowledge if it didn’t intend to use it to create a product line. 

Yes, sometimes companies buy a product to kill it, but Goria wasn’t competing with Batesville because Batesville doesn’t make vaults.  Yet.

In fact, if Batesville had never intended to enter the vault world, they would have little reason to even know that Goria existed.

In my estimation, Batesville either wanted to get into the vault business and decided that buying the intellectual property outright was easier that fighting a protracted patent battle later or saw this as an easy way to add a product to their already-impressive distribution network.

So yes, Ryan, I think the vault business is in for a big shakeup.  Most affected, I think, will be vault companies who sell a large amount of product to the corporates, as they will be the easiest for Batesville to convert in large numbers.  Batesville clearly already has a wide-reaching relationship with management at the corporations, so convincing them to make the switch won’t be hard.

But what about all the unafilliated firms?  How will Batesville convince them? 

First, maybe Batesville doesn’t need to convert that many to create a viable product line.  I’m sure that the business from SCI alone would make it highly attractive to launch the product.

And once the product is launched and used in some funeral homes, others will try it out.  If Batesville can deliver a similar level of customer service, I think smaller vault companies have reason for concern.

But that brings us to the biggest issue facing any business:  how good is your customer service? 

Someone can always create a cheaper product, copy your product features or create a better product.  And that may convince some folks to switch.  But for a repeat purchase, such as vaults or urns or caskets, the delivery experience and customer service are very, very important.

Batesville deals with funeral homes now.  What happens when they have to learn to deliver to cemeteries?  How will they interact with cemetery staff?  In smaller cemeteries, who will handle the opening and closing?  Will they sign up a bunch of small vault companies to sell their product?  Can Batesville handle the customer service for so many new customers, like the cemeteries who will be in line to buy their vaults?

There are a lot of questions still to be answered.  And to be fair, I rushed this post out with very little preparation, so you’re getting my “stream of consciousness” ramblings here.

It will be interesting to see how Batesville rolls out their line of vaults, which I think is inevitable.  Even more interesting will be the reaction of current vault sellers.

Our friends at Failblog call this a “breaking news fail”:

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Wanna waste a few hours of your time?  Check out all the hilarious stuff at www.failblog.org.

As part of my work as a consultant to other funeral industry vendors, I often spend several hours discussing the specifics of how they will set up their booth, interact with prospective customers and act during the show.

In fact, I’ve written several articles about this, most of which boil down to “wake up and realize how important your trade show hours can be!”

I started out on the blog writing about Common Convention Mistakes.  Then I talked specifically about booth setup in Convention Tip: Get Away From the Table.

Having trouble getting people to stop at your booth?  Maybe you need to read my post,  2008 NFDA Convention: The Tired, The Hungry and The Bored, to see if your attitude needs an adjustment.

Finally, I cautioned exhibitors not to stuff their face, in the post, Hey, Vendors. Stop Telling Me How Hungry You Are.

Want to know how we make our conventions successful?  Read 2008 NFDA Convention: How Final Embrace Averaged 36 Sales a Day.

Other good reading?  Try these:
How Many People Will you Meet at the NFDA Convention?
NFDA Is Making Changes for 2009 Convention (And I’m Concerned)

Next week, I’ll talk about some specifics for the upcoming NFDA convention.  And I’ll tell you about a few opportunities for vendors to interact with Final Embrace and maybe, just maybe, improve your visibility to funeral directors all across the country.

Our friends at Connecting Directors have invested in some important changes that will make the site easier to read and more feature-filled for visitors.  Here’s a word from site founder, Ryan Thogmartin:

Pushing forward as the leader in funeral industry news and articles ConnectingDirectors.com has rebuilt their website to incorporate the most advanced forms of online publication and social networking features. Members will be impressed with the ease of navigation and high end graphics that make a visit to the site a truly enjoyable experience.
Just on the homepage itself, members will have access to over 24 different articles! ConnectingDirectors.com is providing the most up-to-date and relevant funeral industry news and information found anywhere on the web.

Updated multiple times a day, ConnectingDirectors.com has added more features to encourage members to interact with the site and each other. Since the site is update so frequently members will receive a “Daily Updates” email with a link to new articles that were published that day. With the addition of an online “Polling” system, CD.com is able to receive feed back from members regarding funeral industry topics.

With their new site ConnectingDirectors.com is bringing the first only source of social networking to the funeral industry. These social networking features include private messaging, extended profiles, the ability for members to create sub groups within the site, and also allowing members to “friend” each other just like the worlds largest social networking site Facebook. Also added to the mix of new features is a new and improved Discussion Board (Forum).

Because of the addition of these powerful social networking features current members of ConnectingDirectors.com will have to re-register on the site.

Thank you for reading and we look forward to seeing you at the new site!!

Ryan Thogmartin – Founder and CEO

I’m not a huge fan of the celebrity obituary.  They usually tell us very little that Entertainment Tonight, the Enquirer and other publications of even “dubious-er” reputations, haven’t already revealed as they painstakingly rip every shred of humanity away from the carcass of a living American celebrity.

So imagine my surprise when the article by music industry writer Bob Lefsetz refuses to distill Jackson’s history through the typical “he was born on _____ in ______ to parents _______ and _______” filter, instead focusing on the nature of his celebrity, how he went from a talented little boy to an adult oddity – or so it seemed to many of us – and our own complicity in the transformation.

His article starts with the sentence, “He missed his childhood and now he’s gonna miss his old age.”

It’s a fascinating description of his journey, an essay on the musical miracles he performed and the heights of stardom from which he eventually, some might say inevitably, fell.  BE WARNED – Bob’s second sentence contains a very harsh expletive, but it reinforces the first statement and leads into the story.  And while I think he could have done without the f-bomb, it reminds us that this is a raw essay by someone trying to figure out what Michael’s life – and now, his death – means to music and to music listeners.

Read his great article here.

Concharodriguez

Meet “Concha” Rodriguez, a Chicago funeral director who uses her teenage experience as a gang member and her current occupation to “scare straight” gangbangers in area schools.

Read the full interview and “600 words” story here.

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The Harlem Renaissance Orchestra plays while mourners swing dance at the funeral of Frankie Manning:  video

59-page U.K. report, titled “Planning for Possible Influenza Pandemic: A Framework for Planners Preparing to Manage Deaths”, describes possible measures to deal with huge numbers of corpses from a major outbreak of swine or other type flu.  Story

Funeral director in Beckley, West Virginia deals with nearby residents who don’t want him to add a crematory to his funeral home.  Story

I didn’t get to attend the 2009 ICCFA Conference, but it’s going on right now, so here’s hoping some of our readers who did attend will share their thoughts.

Our friend and Funeral Futurist Robin Heppell presented What’s Your Strategy? A Hands-On Workshop earlier today.  Hope it went well, Rob!

I’m busy preparing my presentations for the June IFDF show and part of that preparation is a new article in their newsletter.

I haven’t seen it yet, but Jan Scheff with the Independent Funeral Directors of Florida tells me that I’m on the front cover with my headshot next to the article!

I’m also working on two stories about funeral homes and social media.  The first is completed and is being submitted to the Funeral Business Advisor for their June issue.

The other is going to American Funeral Director.

Look for me in print!

Often, when I’m worried that something I’m writing or sewing or building won’t work and try to strive for perfection, I think of this parable, as told by Alison Woods from the book, Art and Fear:

The ceramics teacher announced on opening day that he was dividing the class into two groups. All those on the left side of the studio, he said, would be graded solely on the quantity of work they produced, all those on the right solely on its quality.

His procedure was simple: on the final day of class he would bring in his bathroom scales and weigh the work of the “quantity” group: fifty pound of pots rated an “A”, forty pounds a “B”, and so on. Those being graded on “quality”, however, needed to produce only one pot—albeit a perfect one—to get an “A”.

Well, came grading time and a curious fact emerged: the works of highest quality were all produced by the group being graded for quantity. It seems that while the “quantity” group was busily churning out piles of work—and learning from their mistakes—the “quality” group had sat theorizing about perfection, and in the end had little more to show for their efforts than grandiose theories and a pile of dead clay.

 I found this parable in a post on the blog, LifeClever.

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I just finished reading an interesting article about a funeral home in Minnesota and the effect that cremation is having on their business.  You can read the full article on the Minnesota Public Radio website here.

While the article touches on how many people are choosing cremation because of new economic realities and the way the funeral director they’ve interviewed is weathering the downturn, the article fails to discuss the long-term ramifications for the industry.

I believe that cremation is a game-changer for the traditional funeral industry and that many firms will have to re-think their entire pricing models to make their businesses operate on cremation income.

Traditional burial is called by its name because that’s what drives it:  tradition.  Other than those who fear fire, most people aren’t afraid of cremation as an option; they simply choose burial because “that’s what the family’s always done.”

So what happens when grandma can’t afford a big funeral and there’s a choice to be made?  What happens to the “tradition” when the patriarch or matriarch of a large family decides, for economic reasons, to choose cremation?

In my experience, “grandma’s getting cremated” means everyone else in the family is now free to be cremated.  Cousins start asking the cemetery how many sets of cremated remains can be buried in a space in the family plot.  At the memorial service, family begins discussing how much easier it was to plan a cremation (and cheaper) and, if you’re invited, you’ll hear five people say how much they’d rather have a party than a funeral.

While I don’t advocate battling cremation, I do think we, as an industry, have to realize that consumers are seeing the benefits of cremation, benefits to their wallets and their families, and they’re making the easy, less-expensive choice.

The current economy just gives them another excuse to make the decision sooner.

What are we doing to show our relevance to grieving families?  Does our community know that cremation isn’t just direct?  Do your neighbors and friends know that cremation is just a cheaper disposition than burial, not a completely new thing?  Do they know that you can still provide them with viewing, services and closure?

From our friends at Kates-Boylston Publications:

Funeral Service Insider’s Annual Compensation and Casket Surveys Now Open

WALL, N.J. – Funeral Service Insider recently opened its annual compensation and casket surveys, and the publication is asking funeral home owners and funeral directors to take some time to fill them out.

“Our Casket Survey and Compensation Survey issues are two of our most popular issues,” said the newsletter’s executive editor, Thomas A. Parmalee. “Given the downturn in the economy, funeral service professionals are especially interested this year to find out how casket sales and pay levels are being affected. The more responses we get, the better.”

While answers from the survey are tabulated to help portray what’s going on in funeral service, no one is quoted by name unless they give the editor their permission.

To complete the Annual Compensation Survey, please visit http://tinyurl.com/dzruo8

To complete the Annual Casket Survey, please visit http://tinyurl.com/8z3vuu

To view a sample issue of Funeral Service Insider,
visit www.katesboylston.com/fsi or call 800-500-4585 to subscribe.

In an interview with Sporting News, former UCLA basketball coach John Wooden quotes a poem written by Sven Nader after hearing Wooden talk of “yonder”.

Obstensibly, the poem speaks of the afterlife, but for Wooden, the “yonder” of the last stanza refers to his wife, Nell, who died in 1985.  Still very much in love with the girl who enchanted him for 53 years, Wooden writes a letter to his bride every month.  The house looks the same as when she left:  her dressing gown is still stretched over her side of the bed, her lipstick on the vanity.

At 98, Wooden speaks in the interview of his intense longing to be with his wife.  

I wish it would happen how.  But I’m not going to try to hurry it… I’m thankful for so many things.  My children, my 13 great-grandchildren, all live within an hour or less, and I see them all regularly.

Within an hour or two, I can see the ocean, I can be in the mountains, I can be in the desert, I can be at Disneyland, I can be at an athletic event.  There are so many things.  I have been so blessed.  And out yonder, I’ll be with Nellie again.

Here’s the poem, by Sven Nader:

Once I was afraid of dying,
terrified of ever-lying,
petrified of leaving family, home and friends.

Thoughts of absence from my dear ones,
brought a melancholy tear once,
and a dredful fear of when life ends.

But those days are long behind me,
fear of leaving does not bind me,
and departure does not hold a single care.

Peace does comfort as I ponder,
a reunion in the yonder,
with my dearest one who is waiting for me there.

A recent reader, Cathy, had a response to my post, Generating Cold Leads for Pre-Need Sales:

I’m glad that you made a differentiation between the “sharks” and the “Nice Guys” because I’m one of the latter ones. I work for the three letter company you mention and it has become increasingly difficult for me to make a living wage.

I pride myself in taking excellent care of the families I serve and do not… indeed, will not pressure them into anything. I merely offer options and let them choose based upon their wishes and budget.

Because I refuse to be “that” person, I may be looking for a different career.

I was intrigued, because the “nice guy” preneed salespeople don’t last long, it seems, and she’s kinda reinforced that in her last line.

So I visited her blog and read some more of what she has to say about her career.  Sprinkled among articles about low-carb foods (her blog is about her journey as a cemetarian and low carb devotee) are posts about what life as a pre-need counselor is like.

I’ve read most of her recent posts and I find her to be literate and extremely passionate about her job.  I wonder if she’s considered going to mortuary school?

You should check out her blog.

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As a vendor selling to funeral homes, I’ve been very interested in seeing how current economic conditions will affect the liquidity of my clients and their willingness to buy our quilted cot covers.

Seems my friend Thomas Parmalee and the other editors at Kates-Boylston Publishing are having similar thoughts, and they’ve just published The Funeral Director’s Economic Survival Guide to give important advice during times of tighter cash flow and changed spending habits.

Here’s their press release:

WALL TOWNSHIP, N.J. — If you are a death-care professional worried about your bottom line in this worsening economy, then it’s time to pick up a copy of “The Funeral Director’s Economic Survival Guide: A Comprehensive Handbook on How to Cut Costs and Boost Revenue.”

 

Homesteaders Life Company, a leading provider of funeral insurance funding and support, is proud to be the exclusive sponsor of the book, published by Kates-Boylston Publications. “‘The Funeral Director’s Economic Survival Guide’ is an important and timeless resource for every funeral home owner, manager and associate,” said Dean Lambert, vice president of marketing for Homesteaders. “We are proud to share a leadership role with Kates-Boylston Publications in providing solutions and resources to help you grow in service to the families of your community.”

 

Inside, you’ll learn:

 

  • How to cut costs during an economic crisis;
  • Tips on buying and selling in a tough market;
  • How taxation might change in the months ahead;
  • How to make the most out of preneed;
  • Marketing tips from an array of experts;
  • And much more!

Thomas A. Parmalee, executive editor of Kates-Boylston Publications, noted that the Survival Guide includes 16 chapters and is almost 80 pages long. “In these tough economic times, it’s imperative that funeral service professionals run their businesses as efficiently as possible because that’s what their competitors are doing,” Parmalee said. “‘The Funeral Director’s Economic Survival Guide’ shows how firms can boost revenue in tough times while continuing to provide great service to families.”

 

The book is available for $75 by visiting www.katesboylston.com or by calling 800-500-4585. “Also, we are offering the guide for free to anyone who takes out at least a one-year subscription to Funeral Service Insider, which doles out business tips and the latest news to funeral service professionals every week,” according to Parmalee, who asked anyone interested in the special offer to e-mail him at tparmalee@katesboylston.com.

 

A century old insurer founded 1906 in Des Moines, Iowa, Homesteaders Life Company is focused solely on funeral insurance funding and support. It is associated with more than 3,000 funeral homes and 8,000 licensed agents across the United States.

 

Kates-Boylston Publications, based in Wall, N.J., is the publisher of American Funeral Director and American Cemetery magazines. The company also publishes American Blue Book of Funeral Service, a shipping directory; Funerals of the Famous, Funeral Service Insider and other publications that serve the funeral service industry. Visit www.katesboylston.com to learn more.

February 3, 1959 may have been “the day the music died,” but “the day the casked was re-sold” may eclipse it in the next few weeks.

That’s because Jay Richardson, son of The Big Bopper, is selling the casket that his daddy was buried in until being exhumed in 2007 for an autopsy and re-interment.

The eBay auction starts soon.  Wanna bid?

Read the full story here.

Each January, I like to look back over our writing for the last year and see what really stands out.  In truth, a lot of what I write is fine for the day it’s published, but a few exceptional posts stand out after some time has passed.

Here’s a list of what I consider our best posts of 2008, starting with last year’s round-up:

JANUARY
Best Posts of 2007
Funeral Industry Website Roundup
Ignore the Rules: The Cliff Young Story
Don’t Sell Kitty Wigs
Funeral Homes as Retailers
Teach Them: Cremation is a Disposition Option, not a Service Option

FEBRUARY
If You’re Struggling to Make It Work, Maybe it’s Not a Good Idea!
How Heath Ledger’s Funeral Affects Our Industry
Michelle Carter Shares “Is the Future Really So Grim?”

MARCH
Dale Clock Responds to “Is the Future Really So Grim?”
The Hagglers are Coming

APRIL
Do Funeral Homes REALLY Need the Internet?
Advertising Before You’re Good Enough
What Message Are You Sending?
Learning from Others’ Mistakes

MAY
Electing a “Dead Guy”
Discount Selling and Full-Service Don’t Mix
American Airlines Needs a Discount Brand

JUNE
Reconnecting: My Argument for Attending Conventions
Serious Money is Coming to Online Obits. And Why it Won’t Work.
Tools Every Funeral Director Should Own
2008 KFDA Convention: Day 3 and Wrap-Up
2008 KFDA Convention: Solving a Problem

JULY
Being THE Best VS. Being YOUR Best
Is The Funeral Consumer’s Alliance More “Predatory” Than the Funeral Industry Itself?
What Tim Thinks Every Funeral Home Website Needs
Why Write a Blog for Your Business?
Mourning: Internet-Style

AUGUST
Are Your Employees a Team?

SEPTEMBER
Pet Funeral Home… In New York
Twitter and a Funeral

OCTOBER
2008 NFDA Convention: Day 1
What the 2008 NFDA Convention Means for Final Embrace
2008 NFDA Convention: What NFDA Did Right

NOVEMBER
2008 NFDA Convention: What NFDA Should Fix
2008 NFDA Convention: The Tired, The Hungry and The Bored

DECEMBER
Can Part-Time Employees Replace Advertising?
Random Flowers of Kindness
Hosting a Holiday Remembrance Service: 2008 Edition
2008 Business Rewind and Review

I’m taking a break from my Christmas gifts (got an iPhone!) to catch up on a new-to-me blog, called The Daily Undertaker.

The blog features thoughts on death by a funeral director.  I can’t quite tell who the blog is meant for (it has a different structure than a run-of-the-mill blog) but I like the voice of the writer.

Check it out!

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